You probably have not seen Dr. Joe Abah's amazing thread on marriages... yet.
Dr. Abah
is the Director-General, Bureau of Public Service Reforms and earlier
today, June 1 2017 he shared an insightful list of how men can make the
best of in their relationships with women.
"Having
been happily married for 25 years, let me share my experience with my
fellow men. The tips here won't work for everyone," he tweeted
before launching into over 25 tweets filled with some of the wisest
relationship tips you'll ever come across on the Internet.
Read Dr. Joe's tweets and let's know what you think in the poll below:
1.
You see, there's division of labour in marriage. What she says about
the house goes: furniture, curtains, colours, throw pillows, blinds,etc.
As
a man, you only know basic colours. Don't even argue about the
difference between fuscia pink and coral pink or between blue and
cobalt.
2. If you come home before Madam and the house help asks you what you will eat, tell her "Let me call Madam and ask her."
Make your woman happy at all times. That's the best way to be in a relationship or marriage. (Abataza Bingo)
3.
Tell Madam the party starts at 8pm when it actually starts at 7pm. Be
ready at 6:30 pm and offer to help to iron, get her slippers, etc. You'd
better be seen to be ready before your Madam. Don't go and start
watching a match and think "I only need 15 minutes to get ready."
When you are going out with Madam, always carry at least two handkerchiefs. She'll need at least one. Trust me. I'm a Doctor.
4.
Although you can pay to have everything done for you, Madam is happy
when you fix things yourself: change light bulbs, jump start the car...
5. Never
ever hit your woman! No matter the provocation! That's even if she hits
you. You're strong enough to bear it and talk to her later.
Be a lover, not a beater (Alamy)
6. Never be to friendly to her friends. It's better that they see you as quiet or even aloof, stuck up and distant.
7. There's absolutely no need to prove to your woman that you're a man. All you need to prove, constantly, is that you love her.
8. The
fact that you love your kids, which she bore for you, is not the same
as showing her love in her own right. Don't get it twisted.
9.
Your woman wants you to be hardworking but also to stay with her all
day. Deal with it. Come home early occasionally & let her know you
did.
Women need time with you. (That Sister)
10.
Free her from cooking at least one day a week. I choose Sundays. Make
her feel special on Mothers Day and on her birthday. Cook for her.
11.
Remember that you have left your father and mother (especially your
mother!) to cleave to your wife and you two have become one.
12. Support your wife's work. Learn about it. Help her prepare spreadsheets and invoices. Let outsiders know that she's not alone.
If
she wants to go into business, support her, even if you don't think
it's a good idea. Don't doubt her intuition. If it fails, notin spoil
13.
If your woman tells you to be careful with one of your friends, be
careful. Be very careful. Woman have "third eyes" &can read body
language
14. Never
disagree with your woman in front of the children. Never! You can always
talk to her later. Always present a united front.
Let her choose where you both sit in a restaurant (Pinterest)
15. Women are more particular. Always ask her where she wants to sit in a restaurant and which chair she prefers to sit on.
16.
She'll always criticise your driving and tell you "park there" although
it's the only parking space left. Thank her for spotting it.
17.
You will not believe how many weeks of peace an occasional inexpensive
gift that you spent hours choosing will buy you. Thank me later.
18.
Your woman shouldn't really be running out of phone credit. I mean
really! She shouldn't even know how it's done. Only that she always has.
Give to your woman. Never get tired of doing so. (Pinterest)
19. Even if your woman has millions in her account, give her small cash occasionally and watch her dance in jubilation.
20.
Whatever financial pressures you have, please remember that food money
is a first line charge. No excuses here o abeg, even if she has.
21.
If you have a good woman, the best way to look after your mother and
siblings is through your wife. She'll add her own money sef.
22. Make it obvious you're ready to lay down your life for your woman!
