I met this new girl through another female friend.
When
this friend of mine travelled, this new girl starting visiting me. Just
like hanging around, we would discuss politics, music and movies.
We
hang around for hours regularly, sometimes till after midnight before
she leaves because she resides directly opposite me across the road.
I
start having feelings but I tried to suppress them so as not to create
unease between us. But with time, I could not bear it anymore, so I
express my feelings to her.
She
tells me outrightly that she has someone else and that would not even
date a Christian due to past experiences she has. I try talking her into
it but she remains firm with her words.
But
whenever she wants to go and get some stuff, she still asks me to go
with her and that is one of the reasons why I am sending this mail.
I
want to know: where do I really stand? Is she having any feeling
towards me or could this be a case of chasing the air? Thank you.
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The
one person who could accurately answer this question is that bae by
herself, and from all indications given so far, I think she has already
given her response when she outrightly said no to you.
I know people often say actions speak louder than words but according to you, “I try talking her into it but she remains firm with her words” which is as unequivocal as answers come.
I
think you should not be carried away by the fact that she asks you to
accompany her on nightly walks and all that. If someone keeps telling
you that she is not interested in a relationship with you, I think
that’s a pretty clear answer that she really is not interested.
On the other hand, there is a slim chance that she is just playing extremely hard to get.
Whatever the case, I advise that you should let the issue slide and withdraw a bit from her.
Absence
makes the heart grow fonder; so if she really does has feelings for you
but is trying to just play hard to get, withdrawal from her could
actually bring her to you. The knowledge that she could actually lose
you like that might make her soften her stance and reach out to you on
the level you crave.
And even if she
really means the ‘No’, moving away from her is still the wise move to
make as it allows you break away from the one that you’ll never get and
open your eyes to another great lady that will be all too willing to be
yours.
I hope this helps.
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