Here’s a touching story of a Nigerian
woman, Ada Ujaligwa who changed the
life of her house girl! – Ngozi met her
new mother as an employer but touched
her heart and remained loyal to her – 17
years later, she gets a lavish wedding for
being respectful.. Ngozi was also helped
in becoming Ireland citizen.
Here’s what Ada Ujaligwa wrote on
Facebook;
On the 5th of August 2017, my legally
adopted daughter Ngozi Udenwa got
married to the man who was specially
handpicked for her by God himself….. A
wonderful young man I must say
Some of you already know a bit about
how she became my daughter but the
majority of you have no idea and I wish
to share the amazing story of our journey
together as mother and daughter…..
In the year 2000, barely 2 months after I
gave birth to my first child, by sheer
happenstance I got a second
househelp….. My first househelp had
gone home to see her family briefly and I
needed someone to cover for her until she
returned….. My parents got me the
second househelp to help me with my
new baby so I could face my studies
squarely, seeing that I was a 5th year
medical student at the time. That second
househelp was Ngozi Udenwa my
daughter….. She was only to stay with
me for a short while, just a few days but
she ended up staying with me until the
5th of August 2017….. More than 17yrs in
total!!!
When she came into my care, she was a
lovely, humble, lowly, young innocent
beautiful girl whose only ambition in life
was to be sent to school….. She had
completed primary school but was yet to
commence secondary school….. She was
very passionate about going to secondary
school at all cost, and I assured her that
not only would she go to secondary
school, she would also go to the
University and be a huge success under
the care of my husband and I….. To the
glory of God’s mighty name Amen
And so our journey started….. I quickly
observed that she was a very humble,
patient and kind hearted person….. Ngozi
approached every task you gave her with
equanimity…. She was never flustered
nor irritated….. She always did her tasks
thoroughly and with great conscience …..
She was also particularly honest, trust
worthy and hard working, she hardly
ever complained about anything and
when she did, I always took her
seriously, knowing that for her to talk, it
must be something of great significance
….. A very mild mannered, meek,
respectful, tolerant and peaceful young
lady….. She was a pleasure to have in my
home….. She treated my children like she
was their own mother, she would cry
when they were sick, I was amazed at the
love she showered on them whether I was
around or not, her behaviour towards
them was always the same…. She treated
them exactly the same in my absence as
she did in my presence….. And that was
one of the best things about her….. She
was always without any form of
pretence….. Ngozi did not know and still
does not know the meaning of “eye-
service”….. With her what you saw was
what you got whether she was being
watched or not….. The consistency in the
goodness she exudes greatly endeared
her to my husband, myself and all the
members of our families who had the
opportunity of dealing with her….
Everyone admired the dedication with
which she loved and cared for my
children and my home….. She is the kind
of person you can leave your kids with
and go to Timbuktu and sleep with your
2 eyes closed, confident in the knowledge
that your children would be cared for as
if you were the one caring for them
yourself…. As the kids grew older, they
testified to the goodness of Aunty Ngo as
they all refer to her …..
My husband and I enrolled her in
secondary school as soon as she settled
into our home….. And she proved to be
an intelligent, ambitious and focused
young lady to our collective delight…..
She knew what she wanted and she set
out to achieve it….. By the time she came
to our home, her biological mother was
already deceased, a few years into her
secondary education, she also lost her
biological father….. And became an
orphan biologically….. As time went on,
we decided to relocate abroad and we
decided to legally adopt her and take her
with us….. By then she had lived with us
for 4 years and we were pretty confident
that we were doing the right thing and
that with God on our side, neither of us
was going to regret the move to make
Ngozi our legally adopted daughter, with
all the rights and privileges that go with
her newly acquired status….. The
adoption process was rigorous but we
succeeded in the end and we brought her
with us to Ireland….. My husband and I
promised her that if she remained as
loyal, respectful, hardworking and
peaceful as she has been, then we will
ensure that she becomes a university
graduate and an Irish citizen, God
willing.
She became a very important member of
our family, providing the much needed
robust domestic support while she was
enrolled into the Irish educational system
to work her way into the tertiary
institution here….. Through us she
became an Irish citizen and
soon got a good job while she continued
to study…..To the glory of God’s mighty
name Amen….. And this year she
graduated from the University
….. I am so grateful to God and proud
of her for achieving this great feat
because I know just how much she
wanted this….. And less than a month
after she graduated, she got married to
her Prince Charming…. ….
Talk about everything coming together
for good to those who love God, who
work according to His purpose…..
Ngozi could have given us hell in Ireland
if she wanted to…. Infact she was advised
to do so by some unscrupulous elements
when she was about to leave Nigeria
with us …. But she CHOSE to give us
peace and joy and in return she is
reaping peace and joy…. She played a
key role in maintaining the stability of
my home and now she will enjoy great
stability in her own home, as it has
pleased God….. We have become so close
as mother and daughter that I hardly
remember that she was once my
househelp….. We have a deeply confiding
relationship and my children are as
much her children as they are her
siblings too….. They are mad about Aunty
Ngo and won’t hesitate to fell anyone
who stands in the way of her
happiness….. It gives us tremendous joy
as a family to see her become a success
in both her personal and in her
professional life…. She is both personally,
professionally and economically
fulfilled…. Chineke daalu ….. My husband
and I are so elated that through the
grace, mercy and favour of God, we
fulfilled our promise to her ….. Our
promise to her that she will become
successful in all aspects of her life if she
remained good has been fulfilled today….
Holy Trinity in one God we bow down
and worship you for enabling us to make
good on our promise to her after she
delivered her own part of the agreement.
My family and I travelled en masse to
Nigeria this July in order to send her
forth, honour her and celebrate with her
as she commenced her new life as a
married woman…. It is our fervent
prayer that God continues to reward her
goodness and loyalty to us even as we
have tried in our own little way to
reward her through the grace, mercy and
favour of God Amen
From my Househelp My legally
adopted Daughter Irish citizen
Working class girl Graduate
Beloved wife of a good man….. It took 17
yrs but she’s finally where she truly
wants to be……Thank you Jesus….. Amen
….. She was patient….. Very patient….
But she now has it all, against all
odds….. Chineke daalu
Humility, patience and a great sense of
loyalty made her what she is today…..
Humility attracted God’s favour into her
life, patience helped her wait for the full
manifestations of God’s blessings and her
loyalty to us was rewarded with our
loyalty to her….. Seeing Ngozi go from a
lowly impoverished househelp to an
economically viable university graduate
who is now an Irish citizen and a happily
married woman has added more years to
my life because of the sense of fulfilment
it affords me…… I am indeed deeply
gratified…. Chineke daalu
Humility is the mother of all virtues….. If
you want to be served….. You must first
serve!
….. With patience and humility!!!
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